Date Night is an ongoing staple in our house. We have had a standing date night for years (albeit a rotating one based on childcare availability), as our marriage is the one thing that I feel like I can continually pour into and get right (my kids on the other hand…Lord help us all).
When I’m talking to couples, there is NOT a lack of desire to date each other, but there are a few road blocks to making the leap into this longterm investment. And while I’m not here to offer you a money tree today (as this is a common road block FOR SURE), I can help you hopefully work toward removing another one of the common barriers: CHILDCARE.
The one thing I get asked often is:
Where do you find a babysitter?
We have adapted a couple of tips and tricks over the years that have grown our current rolodex of sitters so that we can go fairly deep on our “ask” list when in a pinch, and so I thought I’d share those tips with you today!
Where and how to find a babysitter
First things first, look for the people in your current life who seem to love your kids. These are the childcare workers at your gym, the college student who works at your local coffee shop, or the neighbor girl who always is so dear to your little one at the park. Anyone who already is even slightly smitten with your kids should be your target!
Once you’ve identified a few people, you are going to need to get some courage to make the ask. It’s honestly super simple, and the more you practice, the easier it will be. As your gym daycare worker is doting over your daughter’s headband and your son’s cute smile, simply ask: “Hey do you ever babysit?” The worst they’re going to say is no, I’m busy. But the best they’ll say is YES, I love to babysit! BINGO!
Finding a babysitter is like old school dating. Look for the lookers, snuggle up to them, and then go in for the kill – ask for the digits! If I see you loving on my kids, even for a few minutes, I’m probably going to ask you if you babysit because Lord knows a mama can never have too many babysitters in her rolodex.
Other places to find a good sitter are your local church or youth group. When you add kids to your mix, now is the time to look into getting involved in some sort of local community group. If church isn’t your thing, get involved in something else that you love like a MOPs group, a tennis class.
And I know that my career mama’s are saying, “Ashley, I leave for work at o-dark-thirty everyday and barely have time to eat, let alone join a tennis club or have a leisurely coffee date to scope out potential babysitters.”
I get it, I do.
For you, leveraging your social media account/network is clutch. Do you belong to a neighborhood Facebook group? Or does your little one have a school email list? Honestly, posting something on one of these platforms hopefully will at least get you a few LEADS that you can track down to vouch for credibility.
PRO TIP: I also always ask my current babysitters if they have a friend who they could recommend. 9 times out of 10, they always text me one to three different girls who might be able to babysit.
Those are my tips and tricks for finding a sitter.
We’ve been known to go 11 deep – as in, asking ELEVEN people to watch the kids. It took us a LONG time to get to this point, and oftentimes our road block is still childcare. And despite all of those “no’s”, I felt super grateful to even have 11 options of babysitters to ask. Don’t get discouraged or feel like you just have no one that you trust to watch your kids. Start with these tips and begin building your network, one by one.