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What does rest realistically look like for you rig

What does rest realistically look like for you right now?
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It has been SO HARD to figure out how to GIFT myself even a sliver of rest right now in the everyday. The children are just literally ALWAYS HERE (#introvertmomproblems).
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The beauty of getting to be in charge of ourselves though is that we get to be the ones who determine what type of rest we need for that day. Rest in the everyday is not necessarily frivolous and really can incorporate anything that feeds your mind, body, or soul.
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Small or big, carving out time for yourself everyday is a giant gift to not just you, but to your family. So all my helper mamas out there, it’s time to prioritize YOU as a means of helping your family. Here are just a couple of practical ways you can rest in the everyday:
1️⃣Make yourself a giant healthy lunch. graceinthecrumbs taught us this on Happy 1/2 Hour last week. Bonus points If you make it even before the kids’ meal. 😉
2️⃣Read. Like not on a screen. A real physical book! Our libraries are back open for book pick up which is exciting, or I happen to know another book coming out Sept 1 if you’re interested. 😉
3️⃣Put your phone inside and go sit outside for 10 minutes. Just breathe in the fresh air and be filled with a moment of no distractions.
4️⃣Go to bed early! Sleep = wonderful rest for the mamas! Laundry and dishes can wait for tomorrow!
5️⃣Exercise. I know - this feels the least restful. But we must take care of our bodies even when we don’t want to. Your body is who allows you to keep showing up and snuggling your people everyday - take care of her!
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It is so important to try our hardest to FIGHT for even 10 minutes for just you in the everyday. This won’t come naturally for some, it won’t be easy for lots, but it is so important. For my type A’s, schedule it on your calendar so that it’s literally a box you have to check off: GIVE MYSELF 10 MINUTES OF REST. ✅
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You got this mama. Rest in a pandemic is the discipline that will help get us thru to the finish line. We are running a flipping marathon right now. Stop, rest, breathe, and get back in the ring. Even badass warriors need to rest too. 😉❤️

Pretend this post says something really encouragin

Pretend this post says something really encouraging. For some stupid reason IG keeps not posting it and I’ve written and rewritten it 4,000 times and I’m over it.
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The cliff notes:
1️⃣My kids keep saying “you ALWAYS work mom” and “you NEVER play with us”. These are lies. Little people don’t know what they’re saying. They are most likely drunk.
2️⃣It is GOOD to work! It is GOOD for your kids to see you work! You are a GOOD mom while, and WHEN, you work! Trust this as truth.
3️⃣Our therapist once told us that kids just need 10 minutes of undivided attention a day. ONLY 10 mins and they’re healthy and you’re good to go! ✅
4️⃣We are all juggling 5 billion things right now. It’s still not normal. You’re doing better than you think. Covid life is still stupid and and impossible.
5️⃣You are not responsible for your Kids’ full time entertainment. Boredom is good for them. They’ll become more creative. Let go of the guilt that you’re not doing enough.
6️⃣You are more than a mom
7️⃣This strategy doesn’t apply to babies. Give them more than 10 minutes a day. 😂

Sliding into Sunday Funday with a side of MUD PIE.

Sliding into Sunday Funday with a side of MUD PIE. 💩💩
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Doing our best to prioritize a bit of FUN each week. Hasn’t been easy in Covid, but smiles and creative fun is about all that’s keeping us going.
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Heard it said this week that what we are living FOR needs to be greater than our FEAR. And our family said AMEN and then hit the mud track. 🤣
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Check out the work of adventuresoccer for more info on who put the Muck & Mud Run on. Thanks for the tip axtonmama - the beauty of social media! #influenced.

You want to know what’s hard? MARRIAGE. You know

You want to know what’s hard? MARRIAGE. You know what’s also hard? Marriage in a weird virus world.
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Guess what’s not hard? A night at home KID FREE!! The stars have aligned and somehow (with the help of Grandma and Grandpa), we’re footloose and fancy free. In our very own home. 🏠❤️
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If you had a night off - just YOU TWO - what would you do?? I’m thinking takeout, wine, and Love on the Spectrum?? 😂😂 Blake’s thinking takeout, wine, and maybe a little life size version of Operation or something. 👉🏻👌🏼🤣
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(Also, for the record: we are SO not perfect. Many date nights end in tears or fights or def no sex. Our weekly date night rhythm is HARD FREAKING WORK. It is not rainbows and sunshine plenty of times. But we keep at it. Our marriage is worth the battle, worth the fights, worth the frequent missteps. Someday, these kids will bounce (lord please let these kids bounce someday) and it’ll be just us. Maybe it’ll be more easy breezy then. But until then, we grind and fight and make up and keep showing up just like everyone else. We are not perfection but we are battling to beat the odds. So we keep dating. ❤️)

Do you want to know the WORST 4-letter word??? . .

Do you want to know the WORST 4-letter word???
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JUST. 🤢🤬❌
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“I’m just a mom.” // “I’m just a part time hair stylist.” // “I just work in the margins.” // “I just work 2 days a week.” // “I just volunteer for them.” // “I just do that on the side.” // “I’m just a stay at home mom.”
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ENOUGH.
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There is nothing JUST about the work that you do. You pour your entire self into your home, your family, your career, your dreams, your side hustle - WHATEVER. Stop downplaying the work that you DO like it is less than. Culture doesn’t define your value and worth - God does. There is nothing “less than” about the work that you do - regardless of how society measures it, or regardless of the size of your paycheck.
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You are a BOSS and it’s time you start changing your LANGUAGE to reflect that. No more JUST.
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Try practicing this. When someone asks you: what do you do? Literally practice it right now out loud to ELIMINATE the word JUST from your answer. I don’t care if your answer is “I scoop dog poop for my neighborhood” or “I collect antique knitting needles” - there is no JUST that will be in your sentence.
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PS: head to my stories today where I’m giving a SNEAK PEAK of my soon-to-be-releases book cover! Eek!
📷: themorgantaylor

Having something to look forward to has been one o

Having something to look forward to has been one of the big ways for me to do this whole #momlife thing well. I have to plan for it, schedule it, and circle it on the calendar. (Ennea 3🙋🏼‍♀️)
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The fun-ness level has varied throughout different seasons, but it feels like this lesson is just as relevant in the middle of a pandemic, staring down another round of “homeschool” life.
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Nowhere in the handbook is there a rule that moms cannot invest in themselves, and their fun. Lately for me, this has meant primarily OUTSIDE of my title as mom. Fun for ME - just Ashley! When I schedule fun for ME, I find I show up better as wife and mom as well - it’s a win, win. We oftentimes just don’t give ourselves permission, or authority, to step away from the daily responsibilities and tasks. Fun feels frivolous or unimportant and I’m here to say: NOPE. Fun is worthy and worth it. And will help aid us all as we strive toward lightness in the everyday - especially in a season of constant heavy and loss. Scheduling fun for YOU is a MUST for survival in motherhood.
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How has fun showed up in your everyday lately? What would your ideal FUN look like outside of mom life, if you had the chance?
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