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Motherhood is NOT for the faint of heart, that is

Motherhood is NOT for the faint of heart, that is a FACT. 🤪
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Today I am so excited to be chatting with my new friend @michelleannhagen on @thebusyyearspodcast! We are fast friends as we chat about experiencing an identity crisis in the midst of momming all day (5 kids between us - 4 of which are boys!), making friends in our thirties, the importance of community and finding your Kindergarten moms, and everything else a Midwest and and PNW girl can cover over coffee.
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Click the link in my bio or head over to @thebusyyearspodcast to listen while you’re momming today! I promise you will leave the end of our time feeling more encouraged than when you came, and at minimum like you have a new friend in Michelle. 😉❤️
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And huge shoutout to @allisoncartercelebrates who generously introduced @michelleannhagen and I - because today is Allison’s BIRTHDAY!! Happy birthday friend! 🎉🎂

Look at us - we hike! We do the nature now! We’r

Look at us - we hike! We do the nature now! We’re super outdoorsy.
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A friend invited me on a 7.5 mile hike today that would have been epic no doubt, but it felt above my current nature level. I’m not quite black belt.
So we did the local hike as a fam instead. The kids crushed it...and I’m going to need a spa day now. 😂 I realized today that I’m actually closer to a yellow belt for the nature things. Much to learn, much room for improvement. 🙃 Apparently those thrice weekly 15-20 min Peloton rides aren’t getting me ready to climb thousands of feet. Who knew?!
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But it was fun, took twenty million years longer than we thought for all the breaks we/I took, but we made it. And the way down had a lot more “this was fun” than “this is stupid” on the way up. So we’ll call that a win. And I’m excited to sew my hiking badge on my sash now. 😂

I believe SO much in the richness of community and

I believe SO much in the richness of community and intentional conversation. Like I’m a total nerd when it comes to this sort of thing. I’m THAT friend that dings my glass at a birthday celebration so that we can all go around and say our favorite thing about the person we’re celebrating. I’m a fan of the monthly questions @ifequip sends out for IF:Table gatherings. I just LOVE intentional conversation!
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Thus, I created Book Club questions to supplement my book More Than a Mom. They’re in the very back, and maybe I addressed them for @reesewitherspoon and @oprah’s attention for their book clubs, but a girl can dream right!
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I wrote them really for you and your people though! Sometimes in our friendships, we don’t always allow for space to go deeper because it feels awkward. Or sometimes we just don’t have the space or the platform, as we don’t carve it out.
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Whether you’re a reader of the whole book, or you’re just here for the wine and snacks - my hope is that you will use these questions in the back of the book to go THERE with your friends. Share the lost hopes and dreams, the let downs and hard stuff you’re currently facing, the lull in your sex life and the uncertainties you feel as a mom. It’s all welcome. In my experience, light begins to shine in and we are released when we let go of that last 10% with people who are safe. My hope and vision is you would do this in your own life too.
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So here’s what I’m going to do - you tag your people who you could do a book club with, and I’m going to choose one book club to attend. Sure, for most every one of you it’ll be virtual. But “Author Insights”, encouragement - whatever it is - I want to be there (even on a zoom) to say thank you and tell you to your face that you are doing so much better than you think. We can celebrate all the nonsense and beauty that is motherhood together!
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Giveaway ends on Sunday 9/27 - when I’ll choose a winner and contact you. TAG YOUR PEOPLE!

My heart feels a little bit heavy today. Not even

My heart feels a little bit heavy today. Not even really sure why (this is not a classic “vague booking” post), I just know that the tears are close to the surface today, the irritability is high, and my motivation is not there.
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I’ve got things on my calendar that I have to show up for, but in the margins I’m going to do the things that I know will help:
❤️Quick Peloton ride (which btw that just autocorrected to Rosé so...🤪)
🧡Read (aka put the phone down). Currently reading You and Me Forever by Francis & Lisa Chan
💛Do a guided prayer from the Churchome app
💚Eat the rainbow (my friend @awholehealthlife always says that) & drink my water
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It’s also okay to sit with my feelings for a minute. Sort through them. Accept them, not just try to DO the things to wish them away. It’s not a formula, but it is a plan to usher in the good. It is good to also release. But in order to do that in my experience, I have to allow them to be there. And acknowledge.
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So anyway, if the heavy feels close to you today too - know that you’re not alone. Sometimes it’s okay to not be okay. And I love you. (Not sure why I’m saying that other than it just feels right).

I was chatting with a friend this week about the b

I was chatting with a friend this week about the business opportunity of Scout & Cellar that I feel so fortunate to have found right now. She skeptically responded with: but it’s not one of those pyramid schemes right? I giggled and thanked her for her honesty because I held most all MLM at arms length for YEARS. If you’re a woman of the 21st century, most likely at this point you’ve known someone or been approached by someone in a direct sales business - possibly leaving a bad taste in your mouth because suddenly your friends seem to look at you with dollar signs above your head instead of your real life friendship.
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But what if there was a better way? What if there was a way to prioritize people over profit, while still spreading a message that has purpose & meaning?
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That is how I’m tackling growing my business. I believe in the product, but more than that I believe in the tables & celebrations it will be used to gather around. I believe in disrupting a $72billion industry that is dominated traditionally by men. I believe in fighting for stronger regulations on our food and beverage (like the rest of the world) because I’ve personally felt the difference in my body when I put clean, organic, chemical-free stuff in my box (incl. my wine!).
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Sure, wine is the vehicle and the product. But this opportunity represents so much more. I get to link arms with a community of women who are fun, and fierce but also passionate about the magic of gathering. It provides me with something outside of motherhood that keeps me motivated and focused on leveraging my BRAIN that sometimes feels like it goes by the wayside in the everyday monotony of momming. And our family gets one more vehicle for generosity - with time, money, and celebration.
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I believe in empowering women. I believe we are meant to be in community with one another. I believe gratitude will lead us to purpose, and that there is a better way to do business where people are prioritized over profit. This has been my experience with Scout & Cellar so far, and if you resonate at all with desiring this same passion, mission, and purpose outside of motherhood- let’s chat. I’m ready to run with you!

To the mama currently juggling work and babies, I

To the mama currently juggling work and babies, I see you. 👀
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To the mama fighting with all her might to work in the margins of virtual school and accidental teaching, you are not alone. 👩🏼‍🏫
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To the mama who has so many balls in the air, the anxiety feels like it might just overtake you because the responsibility on your plate right now is too much, we carry the weight with you. 🤹🏼‍♀️
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To the mama who doesn’t know every week right now how she will “do it all”, keep going.
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To the mama who feels like she’s letting everyone down with all the hats she wears - wondering if she’s working too much or not working enough - know that you are seen. ⛑
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To the mama who feels like she can’t make it through one more day of tantrums, crumbs and diapers, this is hard - it’s okay to feel that. 👶🏼
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To the mama who feels alone, even living in the same house as her partner, and desperately is craving connection again - keep fighting, it’ll be worth it. ❤️
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And to the mama who is waking up today, wondering who she even is anymore - she no longer recognizes her own needs outside of the needs of the people she serves daily - know that you are still you, despite what the little people try to tell you. Wrestle back even a moment of silence as an act of resistance today - you are worth it. 💪🏼
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Take what you need today. And trust you are doing so much better than you think. Motherhood is hard, and today, we’re carrying the load with you.👯‍♀️
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✨Tag a mom friend who needs to be reminded today that you’re with her and see the load and the struggle she’s currently carrying and going through. ❤️

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