Sleep deprivation is torture. Literally, it’s an actual torture tactic (or so I’ve heard in my true crime podcast binges). And when you begin cranking out children, those newborn days quickly merge into one big blur of an existence because of sleep deprivation. Buried deep in diapers, feeding, crying, rocking, middle of the night life is rough. I remember thinking (illogically) in those days that life would just be so much easier once I could get some sleep.
“As soon as she sleeps through the night, it’ll be so much better.”
And on the one hand, this isn’t totally false.
But if motherhood has taught me anything, it’s that nothing in it, no matter the season or external circumstances, is EASY. Or even easiER. Things just shift.
Fast forward to our current household where the newborn days are a blurred distant memory with a 4, 7, & 9 year old, and we’re still having many rough nights of sleep. Our kids are great sleepers, and frankly always have been, but life just happens.
Someone is sick and threw up.
The fire alarm randomly went off to wake the entire family at 3am. Someone has had a nightmare.
With multiple kids, the sleep deprivation doesn’t end I’m convinced of it – until at minimum, they fly the nest. My coffee IV is still in full effect – and frankly, moreso now than even in the baby years, because now we have 7,000 activities to keep up with and naps are but a beloved distant season.
If we’re not careful, we will spend our days in the trenches of motherhood, wishing and dreaming for a new season to come, falsely putting our hope in those circumstances versus the present. Yes, the sleepless nights that you’re experiencing right now with your babies are HARD. But I’m telling you, the sleepless nights don’t end even though they are older – they just change.
I don’t want to put my hope in a future that is but a vapor. It may seem rosy or like the promised land from the outside looking in, but the truth is sister that it is just as hard, just in a different way. Knowing this, it is so important to breathe, rest, and channel gratitude for today. The future will not bring you happiness or contentedness. The sleep deprivation will still be there. Today is the day that you have been given. It may be hard or easy, but it is so important that we don’t put our faith and hope in a future life because the grass is not greener on the other side – it is simply greener where you water it.
Let’s not trudge through today wishing and hoping for something different thinking that will solve our problems. No, let’s arm ourselves to fight our battles TODAY like the mama warriors that we are. You have the tools and are equipped for this job right now. Lean in, breathe deeply, and tackle motherhood with joy and gratitude (and maybe wine). It is important to take care of yourself today, which I speak about regularly, because there is no magic season ahead of you when these sleepless nights, these problems your kids are having, the needs they require out of you, will end. They’ll change most definitely, but they won’t end – it’ll just look different.
Take the time today mama to invest in yourself because today is the battle before you, and I believe you have the tools that you need right now in order to fight it with joy and purpose. The sleepless nights don’t end, they just change.
Carry on warrior.