Modern Moms: The New CEOs.
Fun Fact: I love filling out paperwork!
There’s something about the Enneagram 3 in me that LOVES knowing all of the answers to each of the “questions” asked.
Address: Yep, I know that one!
Zip Code: Nailed it.
Date of Birth: Crap. Mom brain strikes again!
Score that test: 100%!
The one line that I have always struggled with since leaving the corporate world though is Occupation.
To scribble down the title that the world gives me, Stay At Home Mom (SAHM for short) feels so LESS THAN. Plus, most of my days right now are not even at home. I’ve talked about being an Out in the Streets Mom before, but that doesn’t exactly roll off the tongue.
I suppose I could write Homemaker, but that term feels nowhere NEAR my rolodex of adjectives or nouns I’d use to identify with. There’s Full-Time Mother, but that implies that my husband is not a Full Time Father, and we fully believe that his day job does not disqualify his role or responsibility, in our kids’ lives. Other terms friends of mine have thrown around: Housewife, Lady of the House, Woman of the House.
Yep, not me.
On this particular day, the sass was slightly EXTRA. I’d had my extra cup of coffee and was feeling a combo of the caffeine flowing freely in my veins and the constant pang of pain in my lower back from the stupid floaty injury I brought on myself while on vacation (hello mid-thirties). This combo led me to a state of boldness that I haven’t always had the courage to exude in public.
I saw the Occupation line on the forms I was filling out and without hesitation, without permission from anyone else, wrote: CEO.
Fast forward a couple of minutes, when the MALE nurse was walking me back to my room, and he flipped my paperwork over and instantly inquired: “Oh, where are you the CEO?”
I giggled on the inside, but with every ounce of boss-ness I had, I replied, “MY HOUSE.”
What Is Stopping You From Being the CEO of Your Life?
This empowerment of identifying as the CEO of our household has only come within the last couple of years for me. I spent SO many years just drowning in diapers, spit up, nap times and all of the monotonous tasks that go along with creating, raising and birthing tiny humans year after year, all the while having a MAJOR identity crisis internally. Where I specifically struggled was to find my “thing” because clearly raising children was not enough. My insides didn’t seem to match what the world was telling me I had to be, or feel, on the outside. This was supposed to be a wonderful, joyous season of babies and new beginnings and most days I felt like it was a trap or torture chamber. (dramatic much?)
In fact, I just googled synonyms for Stay At Home Mom and this was my first hit:
- private calm family home pet
- stay-at-home devoted domiciliary home-loving homelike
- homely indoor sedentary settled subdued
- submissive tame trained tranquil
I’m sorry, but this describes approximately NONE of the women that I know, regardless of their occupation. I think we would all agree that culturally we have moved past the Leave it to Beaver stereotypes of the 50s housewife.
But have we really?
The dictionary associates only words of submissiveness for the role that we play in our family, and frankly I’m done with it.
If you choose to leave your paying job to raise tiny humans, for most likely no pay, there is nothing passive, subdued or sedentary about that choice. The problem is that you and I both know that in our heart of hearts, yet I’m not confident that’s what we truly believe about ourselves.
We struggle to believe the things that are true about us, because there is little to no affirmation from any of the work that we are doing.
You are the CEO of your own life.
Regardless of your occupation, you are the CEO. No one can do you, better than you! There is no job title that gets to make you FEEL anything about yourself other than what you choose to feel about yourself.
It’s time we wake up to the modern mom. She is a boss. She is the CEO.
In fact, I typed in CEO to my trusty Google engine search and these were the synonyms that came along with it:
- administrator agent bureaucrat civil servant
- commissioner director executive leader
- manager minister officer representative
- secretary President boss brains
- chancellor dignitary exec governor
- higher-up marshal mayor officeholder
- premier top treasurer big shot
- front office head person top dog top drawer
Ah yes, this is more like it.
If we are going to be raising up a generation of girls and women, and boys frankly, who truly live out this equality, then we need to start stepping into our full potential, and stop looking down upon the ones who choose a career of child-rearing. This is not a job for the faint of heart. You are not ANY less than someone who chooses a job that provides a paycheck.
Sister, you are the CEO. This job is worthy of the most educated, most intellectual, most highly accomplished women in all of the world.
I’ve also heard Chief Officer of Homeland Operations, Household Manager, and Self-Employed. All of these are great.
So next time you are tasked with filling in that Occupation line, stop for a minute and fill your heart and mind with affirmations about WHO you are.
You are more than your occupation. Other people, and this collective culture, do not get to define you. Your value and worth, regardless of your occupation, is worth far more than any opinion. The work that you are doing at home, in the streets, in the classroom, and within the walls that no one else sees, is good and worthy.