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When stress and anxiety creep up, everything in your life and body tend to become out of balance and out of whack. Wouldn’t it be nice if you had a couple of key strategies to reduce anxiety right there on the spot? Because not only is your physical body reacting in some way to added stress and anxiety (mood swings, interrupted sleep, fatigue, etc) but our motivation and energy to show up for the people that we are responsible for wanes. To be frank, it sucks! Anxiety is something that I have struggled with now for several years – since adding our third baby to the mix. With the help of several professionals, there are a few things that I have implemented in my own life that I wanted to share with you to help with reducing everyday anxiety. I’ve catered this list to be particularly helpful during a pandemic and/or quarantine at-home, so hopefully this serves you today! As one of my favorite podcasters always says, “Your setbacks can become your superpowers” so that’s what we’re doing today with the anxiety you may feel!
1. Strategy to Reduce Anxiety Today by Naming It
This might sound elementary, or real basic, but naming our feelings is one of the most important first steps in working through our stress and anxiety. Scientists show that when we name our feelings, we immediately reduce their power over us. This looks like writing it down, and really focusing on what it is that maybe you’ve lost in this season. The physical writing of it is part of the naming process and helps your body to release some of the emotion tied up in that particular loss. If the overwhelm and anxiety feels like too much, that might be your body telling you to stop and slow down to listen. Gift yourself 5 minutes to just be, in silence, and see what bubbles up. This might help you begin your process of naming the losses you’re currently experiencing.
Examples: cancelled trips, lost loved ones, loss of normal, loss of scheduled time for you, loss of celebration, loss of connection with your work out buddies and your nail salon girl, etc.
2. Strategy to Reduce Anxiety Today by Quitting
Author and Podcaster Bob Goff has a rhythm in his life to quit something every Thursday. Hate that responsibility you said yes to that now no longer serves you? Just quit. This is really the time to listen to your instincts and be super mindful of all that you say yes to. In times of crisis or grief, drawing those boundaries around areas that will HELP you, are super important. We’ve been given this really unique circumstance where our calendars were virtually cleared for us. Really analyze what you choose to put back on as we begin to shift toward life more out of quarantine. Each commitment needs to serve your unique gifts, your vision for your life, and what you believe is your unique purpose on this Earth (hint: your purpose prob isn’t about you). Now is the time to quit your people pleasing tendencies and merely circle the things that serve you, your heart, and your family.
3. Strategy to Reduce Anxiety & Overwhelm Today with Laughter
I’m not a scientist, but I know that laughter is a great medicine. Turns out I don’t need a specialized degree though to claim that as truth, because actual science backs up that laughter is a major endorphin producer. When we are stressed, our bodies are releasing (in mass amounts) a chemical called cortisol, and endorphins help to balance out the over-release of cortisol. So you can feel good about climbing into bed and watching another episode of Ellen, or tuning in to Jimmy Fallon as he does his nightly monologue from his porch, or finally hit play on that favorite episode of FRIENDS you’ve been wanting to re-watch – you can do it all in the name of endorphins! Some of my favorite Instagrammers are in top faves because they make me laugh! Melissa Radke, The Holderness Family, Jen Hatmaker – do not underestimate the power of laughter to help you reduce your stress and anxiety.
There’s more where that came from!
Hey, if you found this post helpful, and you’re looking for even more help to reducing your everyday anxiety and stress right now, I put together a couple of worksheets that I think will help you identify exactly what you are feeling and what can you do about it.
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